The Male Fish Group

This post is about envy and hopefully a solution can be reached (again, not humor. For someone who is building a blog about humor, I sure do lack humorous content, don't I?).

The Female Fish Group

So my wife is part of this Facebook group that she calls her Fish Group. It's an exclusive group of ~26 women who have all decided that they are going to be the best of friends, no matter what.

The Fish Group started several years back with each woman inviting a friend or two to join with them, which filled up the group quickly. Over the years, some members have decided to leave the group. After the initial group-building phase, no new members have been allowed (because new people can't be trusted with the very sensitive information that members have posted previously).

None of them knew every person in the group when it started. Some have never met in person, but they're still considered very close friends. The group is very diverse - they have wealthy and poor, educated and not-as-educated, married and divorced and engaged and never married, mentally ill and mentally sturdy, LGBTQ, religious and non-religious, and all sorts of different backgrounds and professions. Their age range is something like 25 to 40ish. They are super supportive of each other and compliment each other. They share secrets and thoughts and problems and successes and ask for advice and share funny things/stories. They're super thoughtful, asking several days later how a problem turned out. Sometimes they don't agree with each others' opinions, but they always come back to friendship.

From what I can tell, they are completely judgment-free and as a result, can be very vulnerable with each other. Nothing that is discussed in the group can be discussed outside the group without explicit permission from the person posting. They have optional yearly meetups, they participate in Secret Santa around Christmas (an event they dubbed 'Fishmas'), as well as other mini events. Sometimes, they team up and pitch in money to buy a gift for a member that is struggling either financially or emotionally.

The group is very active, with members often posting and commenting multiple times a day.

What does that have to do with you, Brandon?

I want that. I want the male equivalent of the Fish Group. We can call it whatever we want and come up with our own rules and stuff; we don't have to copy the women exactly if we don't want to. I understand that it's not the most masculine thing to discuss thoughts and emotions and all that, but I really don't care (which is arguably more masculine). I still want this.

If you're reading this and think to yourself "Wow, that sounds like something that I might enjoy" or "Wow, that sounds like something my friend/husband would enjoy", then hit me up on Facebook and we can start it.